"You disgrace me" — 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days' Matilda on Niles' behavior in front of an elder

In the latest episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, tensions escalated between Matilda and Niles during a crucial meeting with Mr. Ark, a respected elder in Matilda's Ghanaian community. The episode aired on Sunday, November 24, 2024.

The 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days episode highlights the cultural clash between the couple, particularly around the traditional Ghanaian "knocking ceremony," where Niles is expected to formally ask for permission to marry Matilda.

As Niles becomes increasingly frustrated with the ceremony's unexpected complexities and financial demands, Matilda becomes upset when he questions the tradition in front of Mr. Ark, saying,

"You disgrace me....I'm really, really, embarrassed."

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Matilda confronts Niles about Knocking Ceremony on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days

Cultural expectations and miscommunication

The episode started with Niles expressing his desire to have a smaller gathering for the knocking ceremony, contrary to Matilda's expectations of a larger event. This miscommunication set the stage for a confrontation that revealed deeper cultural differences. Indicating his confusion over the requirements for the ceremony, Niles stated,

"I had to buy food for everyone in their family which is 20 or 30 people I haven't even met all of them yet...I had to get gifts for all of her siblings which come to find out isn't necessarily tradition"

Matilda, on the other hand, insisted on the importance of a grand celebration. As the conversation unfolded, Mr. Ark emphasized the traditional customs surrounding marriage in Ghana, stating,

"This is a big mistake....Matilda have nothing to decide, 'Go buy and this'. No, no. no."

Niles's attempt to simplify the process was met with resistance, as Mr. Ark firmly asserted,

"We don't need anything. Simple marriage. That is our custom... Don't listen to women. Women are sometimes deceitful."

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The confrontation

The tension on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days episode escalated when Matilda accused Niles of embarrassing her in front of Mr. Ark. She expressed her feelings of humiliation, saying,

"You are crying about $200...You're disrespecting me in front of Mr. Ark's place. I'm really depressed."

This captured the emotional weight of their situation, where Matilda felt that Niles had somehow belittled her position in her community. Niles tried to explain himself, asking Matilda why she did not inform him of the proper customs before they met with Mr. Ark. He asked,

"Why then did you allow me to go to knock on your family to tell them this before I went to see Mr. Ark?"

This inquiry revealed Niles's frustration with the lack of communication regarding cultural expectations, which he believed had led to the current predicament.

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Navigating the future

As the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days episode progressed, Matilda and Niles were left to reflect on their relationship and their challenges. Niles acknowledged the gravity of the situation, stating,

"These past two weeks have been an eye-opener for me...I'm starting to think of about all the mistakes that I made all the mistakes that that that she has made."

In the episode's closing moments, Niles contemplated his feelings and the future of their relationship. Suggesting a potential shift in his perspective regarding the traditional customs that Matilda holds dear, he stated,

"To be honest with you I had a change of heart."

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Catch all the drama, cultural clashes, and emotional moments on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, every Sunday at 8/7c. The couples experience a maze of love, tradition, and expectations. Don't miss the latest episode! Stream this Sunday at 8/7c!